50 First Dates

Imagine if fifty first dates was written not as the entertaining comedy with Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler but as a drama with the harsh reality of bipolar disorder and not the farce of amnesia.

This is the life of a bipolar spouse.  Your mate will lash out, be mean spirited and grossly over react in such a way to say very hurtful things not out of hatred or madness but without a clear understanding of the behaviour or it's emotional origin.

The next morning, you are asked to begin again without prejudice, without anger or without evidence of the emotional scaring of the day before.  Judge not, lest Ye be judged.  The principle is very real and a big part of faith but it's practical application is the hardest thing that any spouse of a bipolar partner must endure.

You must keep telling yourself that the sufferer does not understand what he or she is doing or why.  You must treat the previous day like it does not exist.  Like poor Lucy, yesterday does not exist.  

So I say to this, good luck my friends.

Tomorrow is a new day.