Strength of character falls to those in the support group. The patient rages against those around them when they suffer from the down period.
It is up to those in the support group to forget. The patient will always forget. They barely understand the drama they create. We have been told by many in the psychiatric field that this is why the support group fails. They cannot forget.
They cannot understand how someone can take a miniscule complaint like being asked to do the dishes and turn it into being an oppressive partner who sees the actions as pigeon-holing them into the role of subservient spouse, to abusing them as the help.
In the down period, all emotions are amplified in a negative way. This is very painful for the support group. We all must take a step back and realize that it is not permanent
A wise friend of mine once said, just leave it in the past.
I used to be able to turn it off. I have to remind myself everytime now. She does not mean it. It is not who she is.
She is a wonderful lady, a better mother who would die for her son and not this monster who appears for 3 to 5 days every month
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